When you stand with the most vulnerable people who are denied their human rights, you stand to protect and fight for justice and equality for them because of LOVE.
Thank you for giving me this opportunity to tell you my experience in life. I lived with my husband for 11 years but all those years I was troubled and mistreated while the children were watching. I tried to be patient to live with him for the sake of children we had, but I realized that he was able to kill me. I remember one night when he came drunk, and he asked for food. I answered that there is nothing to eat and even the children slept with empty stomaches. My husband started beating me with a piece of stick. Unfortunately he hit me so hard that my head got a deep cut and my body was full of blood. He thought I was dead and he ran away. The following morning I found myself in a hospital for treatment.
When I was out of the hospital I told the pastor in my former church how my rights had been violated by my husband but my pastor demanded that I should keep praying for my husband and that God can change his habits. I realized that pastors make the situation worse so often because all the years many women who pray for their husbands to change leads to flowers on graves. I had to go back to my mother’s land to live with my parents; unfortunately my parents sent me back to my husband because the tradition and their culture could not allow them to keep me. I had to escape with my two children to my sister who was living at Ruai town. My sister was a member of Ruai Unitarian Universalist Church. She is called Catherine.
Gender inequality and injustice for women and girls has been a long standing issue for women and girls, especially in rural areas. In our society beating a woman is recognized as one way of disciplining a woman and the society socializes women to anticipate the habit. The majority of women believe that when they have not been beaten, their husband has stopped loving them.
One fine Sunday in 2010 I went to this church where I listened to the teachings and values and realized that this is the only place where all people are respected and accommodated. I met with the minister for counseling and he encouraged me by telling me that in UU there is Gender equality and justice. In this church I discovered that men listen to their wives and support them in family matters which is against the believes of the culture. Since that day I made my decision to be a full member of UU.
Let me take this chance to thank the you for the spirit of unit and hard working in supporting the most vulnerable people and the affected one by natural disasters.
Finally I wish to say that the house I was living together with my sister and our children was demolished and we were evicted. The business we were doing was destroyed and there was nothing we saved. Right now we live in one room and it is congested. How can we start our lives again? We are in a devastating condition: No good health care, lack of food and security, and no jobs.
Discrimination, Gender inequality and injustice for women and girls is persistence because of lack of economic factor and lack of job opportunities. The women need to be empowered and operate businesses to make their own living. May God bless you all.
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